Relationship “Quantar”*

“I’m in love. I’m in love” we all seem to cry, at the slightest spark of lust or infatuation. For the unmarried, it has the “boyfriend…girlfriend” tag; or better yet, the “Fiancé…Fiancée” tag. And, for the married, it is the “…till death do us part” tag.

Relationships, either married or unmarried, both are some form of relationship with a promise of longevity. Of course, the former should be longer than the latter. But, why is it that at the minutest sight of instability, most relationships come crumbling like a pack of cards? That goes to show that the love once proclaimed, maybe really wasn’t present. Does that explain the frivolity to which people see the “…till death do us part” vow? I thought the earlier part of the vow states, “…through thick and thin”? I thought…I thought.

This “minutest sight of instability” is more often than not generated by a lack of trust, the lack of money/resources or the lack of both. For the unmarried, it is usually due to the lack of trust. And for the married, it is usually due to the lack of both. Once again, I though it was meant to be through thick and thin?

Some may say that the lack of trust is the worst of the scenarios. “What if they cheat on me”? You may ask. You are not the first to experience that. The Clintons lived through it. I won’t talk about the instability that stems from the lack of money, because lots…I mean lots of people have overcome that.

Selfishness is the real problem. Where is the commitment? Where is the promise? Where is the tangible intangibility of…? Where is the love?... the unconditional love?



*Quantar means problem in Pidgin English


6/16/2008